The Reluctant Networker Blog by Greg Peters

We all know that networking — or word-of-mouth — is one of the best ways to grow a business. But what if you don’t know where to start? What if you don’t know what to say? What if the other kids laugh at you? We can help.

  • Practice Your Networking Weaknesses Gee, do you think he practiced that? “I’ve always considered myself to be just average talent and what I have is a ridiculous insane obsessiveness for practice and preparation.” ~ Will Smith At the end of our advanced Karate class last night, the instructor had us all sit down in our best seated splits. Looking around at the ...
  • 9 Reasons to Network Early, Part 3 of 3 Perhaps we should have arrived earlier “How did it get so late so soon? Its night before its afternoon. December is here before its June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon?” ~ Dr. Suess So here we are at the final installment of why you should show up to ...
  • 9 Reasons to Network Early, Part 2 of 3 “It gets late early out there.” ~ Yogi Berra Showing up early is one of the easiest and most powerful techniques for success when attending networking events. Last time we talked about three of the nine reasons to show up early: Own the room, double your networking time, and free your hands to be ready to ...
  • 9 Reasons to Network Early, Part 1 of 3 “It’s just as easy to be ten minutes early as ten minutes late.” Do you remember Mom telling you that? That was right after “Never talk to strangers” and right before “If you keep making that face it will get stuck that way.” I don’t know about the other two, but let’s talk about that first ...
  • 3 Reasons for Systematic Networking Are you ready to fly? When I was a computer programmer, my life was all about systems. I mean, that’s basically what a programmer does — create systems so that the computer can take care of repetitive tasks without (much) human intervention. The thing about systems is, it helps people perform consistently at a higher level ...
  • 500 It’s probably somewhat fitting that I should be writing my five hundredth post in this blog right after a wonderful weekend celebrating another milestone — Elizabeth’s and my tenth wedding anniversary. You see, what made it a fantastic weekend wasn’t just the ten years of wonderful memories with the woman I love. Of course, that was ...
  • They Don’t Want It Some days they just aren’t in the mood for a sing-a-long. “I don’t think I want to go, Daddy” You could have knocked me over with an overpriced movie ticket. I had been so excited about taking the girls to see the “Frozen” sing-a-long movie that it didn’t even occur to me that Kaylie wouldn’t want to go. ...
  • The Networker and the Hard Worker Your network lets you lift heavier loads. Some people just don’t see the point. Maybe they are part of a large organization. Maybe all of their “clients” are internal. Maybe they never have to deal with anyone outside the ivory tower. At any rate they ask, “Why should I bother to network? As long as I ...
  • The Scenic Route Well, that didn’t work out the way I’d hoped — and that’s OK. For about the past year, I’ve been trying to focus my speaking business on a specific target market. I thought I would try career resource departments at various institutions of higher education. It seemed like a good fit. I love working with the ...
  • Forward Behavior: Check the Facts Maybe they should have checked Snopes.com first To quote Dennis Miller “I don’t want get off on a rant here, but…” A few years ago, I wrote a post about being a responsible forwarder — someone who forwards articles of interest to other people in your network. While this can be a fantastic way to stay in ...
  • The Network Provides They say, every once in a while, we should count our blessings. We really need to appreciate all we have in our lives and know that we need to be good stewards of all the good things we have. I also like to count my networking blessings. Similarly, it helps remind me to take care of ...
  • Making the Magic I love Christmas. I love the presents. I love the food. I love getting together with family. I love the whole thing and I have loved it my whole life. When I was a child, Christmas was pure magic. I believed in Santa Claus and every year the lights on the tree just lifted my heart. ...
  • Limited Networker Field Guide: The Gray-Crested Moral Ambigue This is the another in the “Limited Networker Field Guide” series. Name: Gray-Crested Moral Ambigue Environment: Frighteningly common in all walks of life. Behavior: The Moral Ambigue shows up at networking events, businesses, and social events. His camouflaged markings make him appear much like any other attendee. The main distinction happens when he starts to regale you with ...
  • Networking Pride and Prejudice I love the A&E miniseries of “Pride & Prejudice“. There, I’ve said it and you may now proceed to call me a sissy-man. Just remember I also have a fourth-degree black belt. Joking aside, I do really enjoy watching this story and do so usually at least once per year. Great dialog. Great characters. Great story. One of ...
  • Knock Knock Networking On a long drive back from our family vacation at Mackinac Island, stuck in holiday traffic, we made the grievous error of introducing my daughters to the joys of “Knock-Knock” jokes. I’ll let that sink in for a few moments. I love my daughters, but they have the sense of humor that most children have which says: ...
  • Networking Muscle Memory I was toast. I was testing for my first Black Belt. The required form had 84 moves in it. Even if you only wanted to pass, you couldn’t make any memorization mistakes. I was in the middle of my examination when I suddenly realized I didn’t know what move came next. I was about to panic. Then ...
  • Beyond the Networking Honeymoon Be an outstanding member of the group. They are the networking dabblers. You see them at the local Chamber breakfast. Then you don’t. They show up at the lecture series. Then they’re gone. They join your referral passing group. Once again, they vanish. They hear that a particular networking venue is the place to go to grow their business ...
  • The Professional Networker It was time. Or at least my wife said it was time — time to update my office. Of course, being a guy, I saw nothing wrong with the mish-mash of hand-me-down furniture and cheap particle board shelves I had been using for the last twenty years. I mean, everything worked (mostly). Why did I need ...
  • Are They Clients or Connections? You know more about them than this, right? Is your network a network or just a list of names? What I mean is, if you suddenly decided to leave your current job or business right now (or someone else decided it for you), would you still be able to call upon your network for assistance? If you are ...
  • Always Confirm Everything Sometimes it makes sense to follow the rules. It seems to happen every time. Every time I violate one of my networking rules, it seems like I get a “gentle reminder” from the universe about why I have these rules in place. Today my object lesson was on the importance of confirming all aspects of networking meetings — one-to-ones, ...